Congratulations, you now have her number!

Now you have got to know her, woo'ed her, got her phone number and are hopefully in contact outside of school, things should be feeling good.

This is the important, make or break time. You cannot come across desperate. If there is even the slightest inkling that you are desperate then that is game over.

Wait for her to make advances on you, and then when she does, act coy and uninterested. This is going to drive her crazy.

Remember her main priority is to create and maintain relationships, so by establishing one with her and showing a romantic interest with positive signs in return, she will be very confused when you appear to be no longer interested.

It is that old story, you always want what you can't have.

Once she has initiated contact a few times via text, FB, phone or whatever, it is now up to you to ask her out.

Timing is important. She must have already shown an interest a few times before you do any of this, and while you are busy being cool about the whole situation, you cannot be so cool as in completely uninterested and being a douche-bag.

Boom! There you have it. You have her in the bag, now for the most important thing so far; the date!

Some ideas on conversation starters

What is she into?

Find out what she is interested in and talk about it. Every girl loves to talk about herself so allow her to do this. Use leading questions to keep her talking and LISTEN TO WHAT SHE IS SAYING. It can give you valuable information that can help you spark another conversation in the future and can also help you decide whether you like her or not.

What are her favourites?

Once there is a steady stream of conversation go ahead and find out what her favourites are.

Here are some handy starters:

-              Color

-              Season

-              Band

-              Club

You get the idea. Go out and probe and then use your innate creativity to gain some insight into what actually makes her tick.

Make her laugh

Now that you know a thing or two about her tell her some jokes or make a joke about a shared interest.

Remember never make personal jokes about:

-              Friends

-              Family

-              Home culture

She probably won’t find it funny and all the work that you have done getting to know her will go to waste.

Comment on the current situation

If you really do not have anything to say, then comment on the current situation. This could be a great test for your conversational skills. If she likes you, whether it be lust or completely platonic she will return and perhaps even steer the conversation elsewhere.

Compliment her

Now that you are beginning to know her this is where you can start giving her flattery. Chicks spend a lot of time getting ready in the morning so compliment not just her appearance in general. Be specific, ‘I really like you shoes’ or if their hair is looking particularly good then tell them ‘What you did to your hair today looks great’. They will appreciate this and it will improve your social bond.

Keep eye contact and be natural

When you are talking to her remember to make plenty of eye contact. It shows that you are engaging in the conversation and are interested in what they have to say. It also asserts those all-important confidence points. Keep in mind, chicks know when a guy is not being them self so for god sakes, do not put on any sort of façade. They will find out soon enough and be put off very quickly.

Deposit in to the social bank

Quite often hot chicks already have a boyfriend and have had one for a long time, whether it be for love or convenience. The trick is when approaching them and getting to know them to know that you are putting social points in the bank. It is important to remember: Birds of a feather flock together. With this is mind, hot chicks hang out with hot chicks and if your friends with one then you will most likely become friends with her peer group.

When getting to know them it is important to not ask their marital status. They will tell you or you will find out if they are interested. So don’t be dismayed men, if one that have been working on has a boyfriend already and she thinks your great, she may just recommend you to her friends!

A guide for getting to know attractive ladies

People, remember that anybody can get a good-looking girl; you probably just don’t realize it. Here are a few tips to improve your game and hopefully make you realize, its not how you look, how much money you have or what job you have, you just have to play the right cards and boom!



You have to charm the ladies


Ok, so there are some things to remember about this game. Flattery IS NOT charm. You can kiss a girls ass until the cows come home and she will know what you are up to. Charm is, dare I say it, your very own allure. You have to make her watch you, listen, and be interested in you. You have to let her know that your interested and then just leave it and go do your thing. If she is interested, she will be watching.



Here’s a better explanation: If you’re charming, it makes somebody else feel better about themselves. You make them happy. The best thing is: it can be practiced! Get out there and learn about things that make people feel good and just do them.



Be confident



Confidence must not be mistaken for cockiness. Remember, even hot girls are people even in their outstandingly irresistible hotness. People like to be treated like that, as people. So being the babe magnet you are, just say ‘hello’ without pouring your heart out. She will reply and if she didn’t hear you just say it again. She will speak to you, just let her take her time and remember, friendships turn into relationships and then relationships turn into whatever you turn them in to.



Say something!



Now that you have said hello and the ice has been warmed, it’s time to spark up a conversation. This is where you have to get creative. If you can’t think of anything to say stop, think but don’t sit there with your tongue hanging out and definitely do not drool on her. Remember, she is just a person, the same as you. The weather or what major she is taking are good starting points. Just keep I cordial and play it cool.

Dating: Tips & Warnings

Here are some basic dating tips:

·       Be honest

·       Be yourself

·       If you end up not liking her, don't ask her out.

·       Make sure you are well groomed. Girls like clean guys!

·       Don't drink!

·       Some guys may still be rejected. Sorry. You just chose yourself a shallow bitch.

Good luck!

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This is tuesdays reading for your the big date this week or for just general knowledge on how to become an awesome stud.

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